DEAR DEIDRE: RATHER than doing something as a family, my wife spends money on a dress, fake tan and nails for a birthday night out with friends.
We are both 29, with three young kids.
We’ve been together for nine years.
I work long hours to pay the bills, while she is a stay-at-home-mum.
She complains non-stop about their behaviour when I am not there but they never seem naughty when I’m around.
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I spend my free time at home with the kids while she gets out of the house.
I understand she may climb the walls sometimes but the way she shouts at the kids disgusts me.
I saved up for us to go out together on her birthday but she wants to spend it on herself.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s quite understandable your wife wants a break for her birthday.
She sounds stressed.
Bake a cake with the kids – they will love it.
But say how worried you are about all the shouting.
She sounds to have lost her way with them, which is not about harsh discipline but consistency and respect.
My e-leaflet Stressed With The Kids? can help.
And get her a copy of Philippa Perry’s The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did).
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