My son told me he's gay and I'm struggling to accept it

DEAR DEIDRE: RECENTLY I found out my son is gay and I am struggling to accept it.

We were always very close. He was my world and we did everything together, from days out shopping to pizza and Netflix at the weekend.

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My son is 23. I am his 48-year-old mother. I live alone after divorcing his dad eight years ago.

Now my son has a boyfriend he doesn’t seem to have any time for me or anything else. He spends most nights with his boyfriend and I am at home alone.

I know he needs to live his own life, but I miss having him around so much.

I feel as though I have been dumped by him.

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I put on a brave face to the outside world but I spend the evenings at home crying.

Am I just jealous?

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DEIDRE SAYS: This is hard for you both. It takes courage to come out as gay.

Hold on to the fact that he is still the same son you have always loved and now he needs your support and respect.

Tell him you love him but you are struggling. Families And Friends Of Lesbians And Gays can help (, 0845 652 0311).

To stop you feeling so lonely, try for ideas of where you can make some new friends.

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